Sometimes a man needs to go through an embarrassing encounter in order to become motivated to make changes. This is what happen to me and the issue is in regards to premature ejaculation.
Most men will likely be all to familiar with premature ejaculation. Most of the time it relates to having sex and only being able to last a short time before ejaculating. It’s pretty common in most men, and I certainly was no exception.
I never lasted super long in the past, but sometimes I was able to “fake it” by thinking about football or baseball during sex in order to distract my mind from the overwhelming intimate pleasures taking place. Now this does work for extending your lasting ability, but not by much. Sometimes it is barely enough to get by and satisfy your partner, but much of the time it doesn’t get you all the way to where your partner is going to experience orgasm.
My “rock bottom” experience happened when I had met a woman and was on the third date. She was extremely attractive and after three dates I had already built up the sexual experience in my mind to the point of becoming very nervous and worried whether I was going to last.
Well, needless to say, as the title to this article points out, my worries proved true as I literally didn’t even last a minute. I was so excited and so wound up that premature ejaculation was inevitable. I tried to think football but even that didn’t work.
I became extremely embarrassed and never asked her back on another date. Instead I became driven to cure premature ejaculation once and for all.
Here are the steps that I took. I know they can help other men overcome this annoying problem as well:
1. Know the problem. What I found was that ejaculating too quickly is both a physical and mental thing. You are too weak to physically control your ejaculating, while mentally you don’t understand that worry and self doubt can actually cause quick ejaculation or make it worse. This is actually why the football trick works. You distract your mind and make it forget about the stress and self doubt. But because you haven’t dealt with this head on, the football distraction tends to wear off very quickly.
2. Work on the physical part first. You need some results to get motivated and stay motivated. The physical part of quick ejaculation is where to start. There is a muscle between your anus and testicles which you may have heard referred to as the “PC muscle”. Try urinating and then suddenly stop and you will feel this muscle working. Well it also prevents premature ejaculation from happening when activated. Only problem is that it is harder to do for stopping ejaculation. That is, you need a strong PC muscle.
In order to get it stronger you need to exercise it. The good news is that it is simple. You basically just flex or squeeze in the muscle, then release it and repeat for a number of repetitions. Each day try to achieve a greater number of reps. Or try holding it in and counting to a certain number, and trying to top this number each day.
Results will come quick. You will be able to get more reps or hold it in for more seconds by the end of a week. This is great because it totally motivates you as you are seeing results immediately.
Now are you ready to roll? Did you cure premature ejaculation? No. Besides the fact that you will need at least a few weeks of PC muscle training, there is also something else you will need to tackle.
3. The Mind. The mental aspect can’t be understated. You see how strong the power of the mind is when you employ distraction techniques. Imagine going a step further, to the point of not having to think of big men with helmets on in order to last longer.
Just like you can work to control your PC muscle, you can also work to control your mind. The easiest thing to do at first is breathing techniques. When you feel quick ejaculation coming on, begin taking deep breathes. This calms and relaxes the mind, taking away the overwhelming sense of nervousness and worry.
Eventually you will develop more of a machine mindset. You are the pleasuring machine and it is your job to pleasure your partner. You got this.
When you keep focusing on your job your confidence builds. When you believe you have the power to last as long as you need to (which you do) then you will not surrender to the premature ejaculation syndrome. You just need to instill and solidify that thought within your mind.
It is difficult at first, and you may have to “fake it, until you make it”. Force yourself to believe you are a long lasting man. This will definitely have you lasting longer. And each time you last longer than before, your confidence is solidified even further.
It may sound like a lot of work, but really it is not. You just have to focus on these three things. Develop a plan and follow it. You’ll be surprised. I know I was as my 30 seconds eventually developed into 30 minutes of long lasting sex!
